“If you’re horny, let’s do it.”

That's just been in my head as of late…it's fun to sing.

Okay so my niece is at my house when I wake up and apparently she's staying here til Friday. I'm not sure if I'm gonna hate or love this, but whatever. I wanted to talk about hair. My older sister Latoya put a perm in my niece's hair like 6 months ago-ish..I don't commend that or anything, but it's not my place to say shit. I just tell her what she wants to know about how I got my hair a certain way and we go about our business as far as that topic. Personally, I like experimenting with my hair.

But anyways, my mama is sitting in the living room doing my sister's hair, when she asks my niece what she thinks about her hair, and what she thinks is pretty hair. My niece says she likes her hair in a perm, not braided, but she thinks any hair that looks nice is pretty. In my opinion, I think my niece likes her hair in a perm because that way, my sister doesn't have to comb the heck out of it everyday to make it look decent. And i know personally that my niece hates sitting to get her hair combed and she is very tender-headed. My mama asks if she thinks Kota's hair in puffs is cute, and my niece says yes. My mama then proceeds to say the whole we are beautiful with what we are given shpeel, and how we shouldn't want to change ourselves blah blah.

In my opinion, a child is not going to be equip in saying "I want my hair this way, blah blah blah" unless it's a birthday or some shit. I don't think you should be the official judge of how your hair looks until you are doing your own hair. You gotta get to know your hair n shit. I mean a child does not control what they wear or how they look. Parent is boss & the example. So it really don't even matter what you think about how you look, booboo.

It really was not right for my mama to preach that jizz because first of all, Cynia (the niece) already said that she thinks puffs on my sister look cute. & Everybody knows that afro puffs are the ultimate "natural" hairstyle for a little black girl. So she can see natural as attractive, just not on herself…also, my mama is not miss natural! She did my hair in cute natural little black girl hairstyles all my life until I was in…like 6^th/7^th grade. & After that, I started getting my hair pressed every few weeks. This was when I first started styling my own hair, but people: you can wear natural hairstyles when you are a teenager. My mama did not stress that for me. It was basically: okay, you're older now. You'll start doing your own hair, and that means you get it straightened every few weeks. And that is not necessarily how it has to be! I hated having to go get my hair washed and done in the beauty parlor. I still do! I prefer doing it myself because that's just how I am. I like first-hand knowing how my hair is. But my mama never even taught me how to wash & dry my hair. Yes, it is a lot, and yes, it is mega-thick and long, but I needed someone to tell me how to treat my hair and stuff. If it were for what my mother taught me about my hair, I woulda never even touched it when it wasn't straight and smooth (pressed). That annoys me, that she would tell my niece that she should love her hair the way it is naturally, but she didn't teach me how to handle my hair naturally. That's so dumb. And when I stupidly tried afros (the wrong way), she didn't tell me shit. I learned on my own how to wear my hair natural, let it dry natural, the whole nine. She doesn't even like her hair natural. She had a perm in her hair for 30 years and she recently stopped putting it in, and now she gets her hair did every week or every other week! OD, mega OD. She can't stand her hair when it is not straight.

Now, on to how I do my hair. Basically, I wear my hair in three major different ways. Either I'll get it styled for some occasion and wear it that way for a long period of time (curls, braids, crimped), I'll get it straightened on the regular and experiment with different white girl hair hairstyles (parted straight, low ponytails, BANGS), or I'll do natural styles that I just put oils and hair food in to touch-up and make it look shiny (curly bun, twists, curly 'fro). Subconsciously, I named them in an order from what I like the least to what I like most…and also what is easiest to most difficult. I hate when my hair is curled because I can't do anything with it but wear it the same way, every day. I like braids for like a week, but then I get bored. When my hair is straight, I like how it looks, but essentially it feels dead…it doesn't have its own life and it's just flimsy. But it looks great. And last, natural styles, which I love. I think I like them the most because no teenage girls around me wear their hair natural, save braids. I've just recently gotten into the natural hair look, but I do love it. I think the body of my hair when it is naturally styled just fits my personality. & I can't wait til school to wear my hair natural. With my new confidence.

1. Lol some idiot on YouTube commented Ginuwine's song Pony saying "I always wanted a pony as a little girl." Wtf lol